Rant....

Holding on to someone because you don’t want them to move forward, to grow, holding on because you want to remain the same, you don’t want to have to do anything… holding on because you are trying to keep someone in the same life as you, are all selfish, all about them not leaving you… And that is not a relationship! That is not love.

Love is a feeling and not what makes a relationship. Being with someone should better the other, should cause positive growth, as a couple as an individual. How does someone get to the pint in a relationship that they don’t care about the future of it, or the one they are with? I don’t understand how people can say I Love you, and then scream at each other, manipulate each other, and hurt each other. How is that love? How does saying I love you fix that? Isn’t love making EVERY choice about the other person? About how it effects and will affect the other person? And shouldn’t the end result be growth and happiness… not tolerance and lost dreams?

Two people can be together; doing nothing that betters the other. They can be in control of their little lives, and not each other… They try to hold on each other and instead of helping they drag each other down. They are moving in circles, saying the same old things, having the same old fights, just being there… Living in a constant state of frozen motion.

Relationships do not stay stagnate, they grow or they die. There is no in between. No one stays the same when they are with another human being people are growing, you can grow for the better or not. You become used to the style of life you lead. There is a point when sitting on the couch for days is normal… you lose drive and energy. Life becomes what you can get out of doing, not about what you can achieve. Life is to be lived not viewed. There is an epidemic in the world of laziness, a lack of self-motivation, and a damaging wrongfully given sense of entitlement. “I don’t have to go get a job or do my job well because I’m me, I don’t really need to do that, I have the right to do what I want, when I want, how I want.”

ARGH – I hate it, I hate the people think that being unproductive member of society is the easy way to live… I hate it… I know that I shouldn’t – but it’s draining, economically, socially, and mentally. I don’t like to get in that habit – I know that I’d love to sit around my house have someone else stress about the bills, the meals, of life… but then I’d miss out on so much.


Ahh that is my rant, I’m done now…